Stellar advancements in one’s life: the ability to move through obstacles is the supreme achievement to harmony and accord.
Moving through obstacles and shifting challenges transpires when there is acceptance. Should the obstacle be unchangeable, we can transform the experience by the means of acceptance. After all, acceptance fortifies and empowers us.
Out of adversity comes an opportunity to expand ourselves. It is an opportunity for self-growth. In doing so, we initiate a contract of accountability; we ascend to personal responsibility in the co-partnership of an outcome. We take full ownership of our part in the exchange. Respectively, it is important that the other individual embrace personal ownership in their part of the result.
In order to achieve acceptance, it is imperative that your reaction never be driven by the circumstance or motivation of the individual. Self-love and inner fulfillment should never be contingent on other people’s projected feelings, behaviors, reactions or actions. It is based on our communion with ourselves and the universal laws of consciousness.
The end result, the cause of the other individual’s behavior is less important, the significance and value is held in your attitude, thoughts, behavior and reactions. In another words, if you label the experience with such defined roles, as it was a negative experience, then the opening of inner growth is a missed opportunity; likewise for the other individual.
For whatever reason, if the outcome cannot be amended or improved then the critical aspect is to never take it personally. Most importantly, the process of examination and translation through questions like … How did that person feel when…? … How did I play a role in this? … What did I learn from the experience? … defines your role as the observer, learning objectively.
This development allows you to migrate from the personal stance into acceptance, accepting the experience for whatever it may be. Sometimes it is simply about the other person, their inner strife, hurts and pains. Acceptance of circumstances initially is challenging. Once you embrace change then true inner growth occurs.
We all know that the greatest change correlates to chaos. In peaceful times, there is compliancy. When there is chaos and conflict, the universe is holding up a mirror, the contrast between the yin and yang of life experiences. Ask yourself, what do you want to have in your life? We were given free will to make our own choices.
From my personal experience, for many years I allowed my pain and sorrow to escalate and the emotions encompassed my being rather than choosing acceptance. Upon acceptance there is a letting process; in the bigger picture, there is no longer suffering.
The man we know as Buddha was known as the ‘Awakened One’ when he realized his sufferings and how to remove it. During Buddha’s enlightenment he learned three universal truths: Nothing is lost in the Universe, everything changes and the law of cause and effect.
To sum up the three universal laws, matter is energy and energy is matter, we are all One. If we hurt another being, we hurt ourselves. And, in life, everything is constantly changing; there is a natural flow. These continual changes are due to the law of cause and effect known as karma. When we create a kinship and understanding of karma, an acceptance of outcomes then we realize it instead of fearing it, and we create a balanced and rewarding present and future.
Ultimately, when we give purely and freely for the sake of giving, with no expectation in return, we create a harmonious life.
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